Often in life things don’t go as we planned. We can do our due diligence to try and ensure a favorable outcome, but sometimes circumstances are just beyond our control. With adoption, this is probably more typical than not, and something we have become accustomed to over the past 20 months.
Since moving to CT, our adoption journey has started moving down a different path. God has been working in ways that we never anticipated, and we are excited to share about it with you!
Two weeks ago we met with our new Bethany Christian Services caseworker. There was never any doubt that we would continue using this reputable agency after our move. However, our meeting was extremely deflating due to the information we learned about getting our adoption process up and running again in CT. There were countless updates needed for our file, new laws to abide by, and circumstances beyond our control that would make our adoption preferences difficult to meet. Bethany is a fantastic agency, but every branch operates differently and independently from each other. We could not have known these things while living in Pennsylvania and working through the Pittsburgh Bethany office.
Long story short, we are basically starting from scratch with the adoption process.
As you can imagine, we were very discouraged. As we processed through all of this, we felt like God was (and has been for a while!) moving our hearts in a slightly different way than we anticipated.
Something we learned from our new Bethany caseworker is that their CT office doesn’t provide services to adopt an older child from foster care. Their presence in CT is fairly new, and they are still a growing agency. Some of you may already know that we have become quite open to adopting a toddler or young child through the state foster care system. This was disappointing news for us, as we loved that option in PA, and we were considered for quite a few young children there.
After two weeks of prayer, research, phone calls, emails, and a large number of closed doors, we are overflowing with peace, excitement, and great anticipation! God has given us clarity in our decision, and a strong unity to move ahead together in a direction we never expected.
We are so excited to announce that we are going to pursue adopting a young child, or group of siblings, through the state of CT! This is something that God has gradually opened us up to over the past year, and was a path that previously felt frightening to us. Our change of heart can only be attributed to God’s grace, and the Holy Spirit working in our lives. It was actually one year ago this week (5/16/12), that He first started working on our hearts in this way, and began to open us up to children older than an infant. You can read more about that experience here if you would like: http://theswigers.blogspot.com/2012/06/opening-our-hearts.html
Over the past week we have been in contact with a fantastic local agency who we are confident will help us along in this new direction. We are currently up to our eyeballs in paperwork, and our prayer is that we will be approved to adopt, and “waiting” again by the end of the summer! We don’t know how old our child, or children, will be. We may still be placed with an infant straight from the hospital, but at this point it is unlikely. We are ok with that, and fully embracing this new direction with excitement!
This means, very sadly, that our time with Bethany Christian Services is coming to an end. Leaving Bethany has not been an easy decision. We wouldn’t be where we are today if we had never worked with Bethany in PA. The training and education we received was hugely influential in leading us to this decision, along with the staff, and other adoptive parents whom we met along the way.
We know that God makes no mistakes. He is good and righteous. He has not failed us by bringing these circumstances into our lives. He is not surprised by this change of plans either. We are thankful that His plans are much greater than we could ever imagine, and full of more goodness and glory than we could ever create on our own.
If you would like to pray for us, here are a few of our biggest requests:
*Safety for our child/children. We don’t know where they are, how old they are, and what sort of circumstances they are currently experiencing. Join us to pray that they would be physically safe from harm, neglect, and most importantly that God would be drawing them to Himself.
*A smooth completion of our paperwork, homestudy, and that we would be approved by the end of the summer (sooner would be amazing!).
* Patience, and content hearts, as we continue waiting for our family to grow. The “heart pain” we experience as we wait for the blessing of children is very real, and continues to grow.
Thank you, again, for joining us on this road. We are preeeety pumped about the new twist our adoption journey has taken :)